Asking What keeps us open to discovering new information about ourselves and helps us name our emotions. It is more future oriented and creates curiosity. Making the transition from Why to What can be the difference between victimhood and growth.
Instead of asking ourselves:
Why did this happen?
We can ask:
What can I do differently in the future?
What can I learn from this particular event that will help me be more successful next time?
Exercise #28: Commit to What not Why.